Things Doctors have said to me


Over the years, I have heard many things from doctors as have we all. Let me start with "He could go at any moment."

Thus spoke my father's cardiologist some ten years before my father,at the age of 95,got around to fulfilling that prophesy. The good doctor was referring to the fact that my father had a clot in his heart which is as good a reason as any for making that statement. But when you think about it, and I did, that prediction is not wasted on any of us. We could go at any moment; we could ALL go at any moment. Look, I'm not talking about dirty bombs or anything that humans can devise for our destruction. I'm referring to the intrinsic nature of life. It has the ability to cease at any point in time.


So why did this cardiologist upset me for no good reason? What was he attempting to do other than absolve himself of responsibility? OK, I'm being too hard on him I know. Actually, he was a nice man and he was good with his patients. But I got to thinking even more.


Another case, this time, me. I was referred to a cardiologist by a GYN who discovered that I was fibrillating in the middle of a procedure he was doing while I was under a general anesthetic. This cardiologist became impatient and ,yes, angry at me for my condition a few moments into his examination of me. I was weak and scared and he got mad! "Mrs. C.",he said, "you have no business running around in this condition (he wasn't joking as I first thought) this is a serious situation and you shouldn't be so light hearted (again, I thought he was kidding). I wasn't being light hearted. I was simply trying to be a pleasant patient while not feeling well. I should've whined I guess. I later asked my husband, who had been in the exam room, if I had had an attitude that might have pissed off the doctor. He assured me that I had been appropriate and that ,he too, had thought the doc. was a little off.

Thirty years ago , I had a herniated disc. I was in a fair amount of pain as they were testing me for this and that prior to surgery. A doctor came up to me and said,"did you know that you have the silent killer?" That schmuck was no doubt referring to high blood pressure. I felt like telling him where to put his observation but didn't as I realized he was probably an over zealous first year resident and I didn't want to disturb the march of medicine. How're they going to learn? Now there's a thought. Just how ARE they going to learn? That's a subject for another article called, "over my dead body".


Moving on then, lets take the moment when my husband of many years, had multiple seizures the day after his 60th birthday. He had no history of seizures and was in good health. He collapsed in a super market and was taken by ambulance to a regional hospital. He was in an agitated coma with all hell breaking loose in his body. He was intubated,put on a respirator while the doctors scrambled to figure out what was happening. This went on for 5 days during which stroke, poison,and a number of other items on the menu were ruled out. On the fourth day, one of the doctors took me aside and said," We don't know what caused this and frankly, it's not looking good in terms of outcome. He will probably either be a vegetable or die. You'd better start looking at nursing facilities in case he makes it."Well, I appreciate him telling me like he thought it was but it turned out that my husband had other ideas.On the fifth day, he opened his eyes and told a joke. He was out of the coma and decidedly not a vegetable. He lives a normal life now except for the 700MG of Tegrital he takes everyday to prevent further seizures the etiology of which we are yet to learn.


To be continued as soon as I think of more things doctors have said to me.

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